Fashion is a powerful world. Yes it drives consumerism and gives us a distorted image of the female body, but it’s also a magical place where powerful women congregate.
Out of love for beautiful close and classic shoes, women’s drive and energy is in full throttle.
The industry depends on women. POWERFUL women.
I mean we all know the big name designers… Coco Chanel, Pheobe Philo, Diane von Ferstenberg, Stella McCartney (an active feminist to boot), Muiccia Prada… these are women that have single headedly shaped the way you and I dress over the decade. Talk about power… Talk about talent.
But the world of fashion doesn’t end at big designer names and the models who bring their visions to life. It opens up a vortex where female writers, photographers, pr reps, instagramers, bloggers etc can congregate. A place where they, themselves, can also build a name for themselves. Where they, themselves, can inspire other women.
Never underestimate the power of female collaboration…it may just make an industry
Facebook “links” to classroom learning; Are social networking sites targeting the female brain?
The developmental advantages that have given girls greater school success are in danger of being compromised by too much social networking.
The correlation between a girl’s superior academic skills noted in Michael Gurian and Kelly Stevens’ ethnographic study with the growing number of concerns analysts have with social networking supports the concern.
Associate Professor of Western University’s Journalism & Media Studies Romayne Smith-Fullerton has started to enforce a strict no laptop, no cell phone policy in her classes after noticing face-to-face learning was starting to become “a bit of a lost-art”.
Their interest in and aptitude for deep analytical discussions and thinking”
The very three impacts Smith-Fullerton finds technology capable of, are the three superior skills Gurian and Stevens found girls to have. Their study of grade 6, 7 and 8 classes found girls to excel in literacy skills, social cognition and staying focused on the task-at-hand.
Through the past decade, various studies – in cohesion with Smith-Fullerton’s observations - have found social networking sites to be guilty of eroding each one.
1. Reading and Writing
An English Spelling Society study suggests Facebook is trudging all over students’ grammar; on social networking sites there is “no need to correct mistakes or conform to regular spelling rules”.
And the zest for a good read may just be following grammar accuracy out the door. A National Literacy Trust study suggests the next vampire-esque inspired series may be endangered because teens just don’t read.
After surveying 3,000 students aged nine to 16, they found 20 per cent of students never read books and 67 per cent surf instead of read.
Browsing over reading. Headlines over chapters. Snippets over novels.
2. Social Skills
According to a Stanford University Study, social networking sites do just that. It reported: “spending many hours […] using online communication was statistically associated with a series of negative experiences:
Feeling less social success
Not feeling normal,
Having more friends whom parents perceive as bad influences
California State University Professor Larry D. Rosen supports the study. He told Time Magazine: “Teens who use Facebook more often show more narcissistic tendencies [and] more signs of […] antisocial behaviors, mania and aggressive tendencies”.
Further - girls are socially motivated; when they have better relationships, girls show better attitudes, effort, and performance.
Thus, to affect a girl’s superior social cognition is to disturb her overall success
3. Attention Span
Rosen’s study also shows negative impacts on a girl’s ability to concentrate
He says “We have created a world where [students] cannot focus”. The Pew Research Center suggests 90 per cent of teachers believe Rosen’s claim, describing their students as “an easily distracted generation with short attention spans” (The New York Times).
According to Smith-Fullerton, as parents and educators post-pone filtering a girl’s social media use, their advantages are dwindling. She says, “Manners are not innate; they’re learned. If we do not say and demonstrate we value politesse, then it will disappear”. Through repetition, the boost girls once got from social interaction is replaced.
The competitive edge girls once held over their male counterparts are in danger.
First, you should let it go. If you can’t find a bridge to ceremoniously drop a box of mementos and ticket stubs from somebody you love(d) or hate(d) and used to kiss, imagine putting that person in a large burlap sack and throwing them off some high mountain. Because this is in your mind,…
So after researching all of this I got to thinking…
It is it so obviously a problem for so many of us, why can’t we recognize it as just normal?
Even though there is so much info out there, it doesn’t change the simple facts that this is happening. It’s something that will always be there, something we will work through.
An optimistic outlook is:
"Alright, hey there mean voice - you’re telling me stuff that isn’t all real. But you know what, it does keep me moving from being satisfied with ordinary. So bring it."
Accepting it as something we deal with, something everyone deals with, and something that can be helpful might just turn the evil monster into something that will force change. Revolution. Female CEOs. Award-winning female directors.
What is Perfection? What is Satisfaction? What is the Best?
I dunno.. but I’m gonna be a badass pirate and search for it…
Easier said then done… I’ll letchya know how it goes.
Feminism theory is not only a theory in modern world. Many of us think that the theory has been set in to practice for a very long time now to change the world of men in to a world of women, which is an entirely twisted and mistaken idea. All that feminism stands for is equality between men and women. That’s the reason why feminism is regarded as an act or a movement to promote women’s right as humans, not to promote hatred and grudge against men. The only purpose of this is to maintain a harmonious, co-existence between men and women so that the world becomes big enough for humans and humanity together.
Respect Begets Respect
Respect is a thing that can’t not be snatched or be asked for, it is something you need to gain, to earn. That’s only possible when you have respect for others feeling and beliefs. Yet make one thing clear that having respect doesn’t mean obeying whatever others say or expects you to do, that means sticking up to your values and philosophies and standing up for those not undermining those of others. Remember, you can fight and get your rights as humans but respect is to be won only.
Power up with Projection
Let yourself to project the inner you through your actions to feel the power of your beliefs. We kind of nurture a tendency to hide the real us behind the image of us to live up to the society’s expectations. Well, it’s time that we stop doing that and make the ongoing men dominated society a neutral and justified one. And to do that you ought to let the real you lead you, not the society scared, opposite gender dominated you. Don’t forget one thing that if you are doing something that is not at all wrong for you and not at all harmful to others you shouldn’t stop from doing that, no matter if it seems undoable in current male dominated system. Keep telling yourself that if they can be themselves, you can be yourself as well. There is nothing wrong or impertinent in that.
Be Practically Emotional
The key quality that makes us different to men is our emotion and passion. While men listen to their mind, we follow our heart. It’s good that if you do that just don’t let you to go overboard which can give others the room for taking over. If they do what they typically do, as in, trying to undermine you calling you ‘emotional fool’ or ‘silly senti’, don’t give a dime to that kind of childish whining just don’t allow them to rule your life, that’s it. It’s the best to keep the solid harmony between our mind and heart to be on the front seat. Feminism theory teaches us how to do that. It’s your life and let yourself run it not other people in the society.
Don’t forget the top most rule of feminism theory that feminism isn’t about hating men and disrespect social norms, it’s all about getting women their human rights in the society nothing more. So, don’t just stay put and wait, rush to gear up and go for what you have faith in because you don’t have to be anybody else but you to make a difference, to be valued and to be admired. The best part is doing so you don’t have to be rude or disrespectful to anybody else’s feeling, you can do whatever you want until that do any kind of damage to others, and believe me, being the real you isn’t harmful at all.
Low self-esteem is actually a thinking disorder in which an individual views himself as inadequate, unworthy, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative view of self permeates every thought, producing faulty assumptions and ongoing self-defeating behaviour.
Seven in ten girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members.
A girl’s self-esteem is more strongly related to how she views her own body shape and body weight, than how much she actually weighs.
78% of girls with low self-esteem admit that it is hard to feel good in school when you do not feel good about how you look (compared to 54% of girls with high self-esteem).
75% of girls with low self-esteem reported engaging in negative activities such as disordered eating, cutting, bullying, smoking, or drinking when feeling badly about themselves (compared to 25% of girls with high self-esteem).
61% of teen girls with low self-esteem admit to talking badly about themselves (compared to 15% of girls with high self-esteem).
More than one-third (34%) of girls with low self-esteem believe that they are not a good enough daughter (compared to 9% of girls with high self-esteem).
One of the main factors in teen promiscuity is self-esteem. When a teen has little or no self-confidence, he or she will use sex as a means to build confidence.
Recent years have seen a significant increase in body dysmorphia in teen boys. Body Dysmorphic Disorder is a psychiatric disorder in which the affected person is excessively concerned about an imagined or minor defect in their physical feature.
Teenage boys can be prone to obsessive exercising, binge eating, anorexia nervosa, bulimia, steroid abuse and diet aid abuse.
It is estimated that about 45% of Western men are unhappy with their bodies – 25 years ago, only 15% were unhappy with their bodies.
My mom, sister, nana and I usually go see a play on Christmas Eve. This year we opted for a movie. Less expensive. And more delicious snacks to boot.
We decided to see Silver Linings Playbook and, suddenly, I think we’ve changed our tradition. It was just that good.
This is one film where I felt finding love was a necessary “happily ever after” moment.
Jennifer Lawrence and Bradley Cooper played two lost souls, trying to be themselves in a world where the “inside the box”, “normal behaviour” is ever confining and quickly shrinking. The film told us that you can be yourself - no matter how mentally messy - and still find love.
The messy wasn’t katherine Heigl’s professionally-driven “messy” we were led to believe in The Ugly Truth, but the down and dirty “screw up your family, wake up the neighbours, get visits from the police” kind.
And to add a cherry, it educated us on the severity of mental illness. The huge factor it plays on a life. And just how it effects everyone involved.
Cooper and Lawrence were thrilled just to complete a dance routine!
Have we created a culture of biological clock fear?!
Whether its reality shows, comedy sitcoms or dramas, my guilty pleasures keep telling me to keep motherhood in mind. And fearing the ticking clock.
Bachelorette Emily Maynard could not have fit one more over-the-moon praise of motherhood. And pine for babies and a hubby.
New Girl’s CeCe’s magically transformation from anti-conformist model, romantic to baby hungry arranged-marriage devotee on the eve of finding out she had one year left to have babies.
And Private Practice’s Kate Walsh officially jumped priority lists when she jumped shows. After months of failed attempts, she has adopted a baby boy. Hallelujah.
I’m in my twenties, like my girls Emily and CeCe, with absolutely no preparedness or desire to be a mother. Right now. And its not the light at the end of my career path/ binge drinking/ me-time tunnel.
But just because I don’t sentimentalize or idealize motherhood now, doesn’t mean that the plan isn’t there. It is …. And it will be for a long time!
source: Baby Center.com
And turns out I’m not the only one thinking so:
A trend towards later child-bearing in Canada Shows:
• More women over 30 are giving birth than in past generations.
• Women aged 30 to 34 years are now having more children than any other age group.
• 31 per cent of ‘first births’ now occur to women between ages 30 and 34.
Source: Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada
This idea that we must diminish our professional opportunities for motherhood, or risk this fictional high risk of infertility is just not real. Yet it shows up in all my sitcoms.
Fortunately not all address the issue badly.
The Mindy Project brings up the issue within a regular banter between Mindy and her business partner. He makes a crack about her ticking biological clock, and Mindy snaps back with a dig about his wife leaving him. And then he says she could never hold a family down.
Just a regular banter at the office. No big d.
She doesn’t make it into a main theme. But faces the fact that its there, and that she can deal. Slash come back with a nice dig within the same breath.
Sorry for the hiatus. Between school and work and my social life (i can’t lie), I really haven’t had a chance to sit down and write.
Its not that I haven’t been inspired/ instigated. Between Huffington Posts’s top articles of 2012 and all the corny Christmas movies, BOTH of which unfortunately cultivate what it means to be a woman, I have been a-stewin. Trust me.
So where to (re)start? Another way to critically view our “oh-so-juicy” drama-tales.
Ok, in my storytelling class we were talking of the different ways the SAME story is told. A story will have the same spine - subject, focus, main character - but different flares, level of detail, visuals, etc. depending on which medium it uses.
Well when we apply this to TV shows, the same thing applies. Instead of level of detail, flare and visuals, its different songs, characters and setting. But every show, nevertheless, has the same spine; the same themes, the same underlying myths they rely on.
So when you watch a show - strip away the flare - and see what you have. What themes keep appearing across Gossip Girl, Beauty and the Beast, Grey’s Anatomy and Vampire Diaries? Or How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days, Miss Congeniality, The Vow, The Lucky One and Twilight.
You will find that the spine always consists of marriage as a “happily ever after point”, love triangles, dramatics between girl-friends and a woman’s job and her academic success as secondary themes, less important themes.